Every kid's dream is to grow up into an adult.......and every adults dream is to go back in time to their childhood.Why are their thoughts so different?Why do they hate their current age?Why do they look up to the opposite end of their life?Why,why,why,why,why?????
It's nothing else other than parenting......craved by one group and disliked by another.I walked into the store the other day and over heard a conversation between a mother and her son.
"Mum,can u buy me that ice-cream?"
"No,son.It's bad for health"
"One cone is not going to make me sick....please..."
"No.You have a sensitive nose.You will fall sick if you eat ice-cream."
"What about the chocolate bar over there?Can you buy it for me?"
"It's too expensive.I'll buy you the apples over there if you want them."
"You are so bad.I don't want to talk to you."
"You better not talk to me like that.I'll ground you at home if you talk like that again."
"OK mum.When I grow up,I'll buy all the ice-cream and chocolates I want and I'll buy them
for my children too."
(Mother walks out of the store with her son with a disappointed face)
Sounds familiar?I'm quite sure most of you,if not all must have experienced this.It's a normal conversation between a parent and a child.Whether you realised it or not,that simple conversation portrays some of the many problems faced by parents.Try to read it again before you continue reading my blog post.It's there...right in front of your eyes but many parents,just like you don't seem to realise the significance of a simple conversation with a child.
Being parents,your children's health is your main priority.You read countless books on the best nutrition for your little child.All say the same thing.....carbohydrates for energy......proteins for growth.............fibre for digestion and vitamins for good health.But....they don't have the most important ingredient......love.Every parent quickly scans the stores for suitable food because of their tight schedule.They rush back home,cook something delicious for their child and feed the child.An hour later,they put their child to sleep and continue with their work.....either office work of house work.Tiring,isn't it?
Parents also face financial problems from time to time,especially at the start of their marriage life.To be truthful,in case some of you haven't realised,most parents don't start their new life together with a million dollars in the bank.Some of them have a little savings and others just try to manage with what they have.They start becoming very calculative.......and finally realise their parent's woes when they bugged their parents for luxurious items.Electricity bills,water bills,child's expenses,nutritious food for the good health of children,items for the house........and the list just keeps going on and on.Now,I guess you will not be surprised when your parents say that they lack money.
At least financial problem is as bad as the next one.The main problem that parents actually face (although I'm quite sure they won't agree with me because I'm just a sixteen-year-old) is the right way to treat their child.I'm not criticising anyone but I'm just giving my opinion.Many parents actually think that they should bring up their children the same way that their parents brought them up......to be specific,the strict way.The thing is,times change very fast and bringing up a child in a strict manner doesn't really work on everyone.Don't you agree with me?
Let's say his name is X.X was brought up in a very strict manner by his parents.They caned him and did many other undesirable things.He thinks of himself as an abused child.I can see it on his face.He's not lying whenever he speaks about his parents.That's why he thinks that caning is bad and there are much more gentle ways to bring up a child.To be truthful,I actually agree with him.I've seen many cases where parents don't cane their child and their child becomes a naughty brat throughout their life.Why would I agree with making my children naughty brats?
Actually,I'm not in favour of making my children naughty brats.I'm just interested in bringing up my children with patience.Every child is different.It doesn't sound logical to be treating your child the same way your parents treated you.Both of you are two different people.You have different interests,characters,abilities and disabilities.Your child might not be as smart as you,but that doesn't mean you should cane your child with hopes that he/she will change.Maybe studying is not their talent.God might have gifted them with something else.....like art.Picasso was a millionaire and is still earning from his graves......isn't he?
It's just patience.Where has this virtue gone?Many are so busy "chasing" money that they forget patience.Don't you think spending a few hours a day with your child would closer ties and make both of you to get to know each other well?Why not spend the time watching television to help your child discover his special talent or passion?In my point of view,many kids around me can't seem to find their special "thing" because of the lack of exposure.Another reason could be that their parents might think that education would be the best source of income for the future.I feel pitiful for some people who have had to go through a horrid time during their teenage years in school only to discover their talent by mistake after leaving school.
Well,I guess I've woken up those who have been dreaming to be grown ups all this while.Parenting is not so difficult if you can bring up your children the right way.I'm quite sure there will be many of you who agree and disagree with me.I'm not surprised because different people have different views on certain things.Anyway,I'm still a sixteen year old and I have a lot more to learn in life.One thing is for sure....in the coming years,I'll slowly and surely learn parenting skills step by step.Why not slowly learn from the mistakes of others for the better of our future???Try to think about it.....................
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