Mere Spectators

What if someone took full control of your life and never allowed you to disobey his or her orders?What if someone told you everything you had to do in life and you were forced to follow them?What if someone never gave you the freedom to break traditions and explore new opportunities in life?

Are you one of the victims or the person who controls others?To me,you shouldn't be either one of them.Who are we to control another person's life?

Last week,during a conversation with one of my friends,the person was talking about choosing a future spouse for his/her sibling.So,the person wanted the future candidate to have certain qualities that would eventually make up an almost perfect partner.Well,in the beginning,his/her visions didn't sound wrong at all.But then,I started thinking form the sibling's point of view.Although those qualities were good,it wasn't something that the sibling actually requested.Apparently,I think my friend came up with the ideas herself/himself.

Let it be if we are parents or elder siblings,we always shouldn't think of controlling another person's life just because we were brought up that way and eventually turned out to be good.It's true that at times we act in such a way in response to the huge responsibility given to us about taking care about another person but that shouldn't be the way to do it.

For instance,many parents want their children to have a career in science and earn lots of money so that their children will live "happily".Although earning money is easier with good education,it still doesn't guarantee happiness in someone's life.Happiness is only guaranteed when someone indulges in careers which revolve around his/her passion.

So,how are we to help our loved ones if we shouldn't take control of their lives?

Advice is the best option.We may not be able to make our loved ones into our 'robots' but we can always advice them on certain matters.Advising them will cause their minds to plunge into a realm of thought to think and make a good decision.If we think something suits them well,we should give them advice so that they realize the importance of the message that we are trying to convey.

One thing that we have to remember is that we are just mere spectators of another person's life.Let them make the choice and experience the aftermaths of their decisions.That's how people learn to be wiser in life.So,for those "grannies" out there,take your foot of the pedal and let others learn to live their life in a much more meaningful way...........