It's About Giving And Taking

About a week or two ago,my favourite newspaper writer wrote an article about how short relationships and marriages last these days.According to her,marriages are like iPods,you can buy and change them as many times as you like.She said this as she compared the time period of marriages in her own family,her grandma's one lasted for 34 years,her mother's lasted for only half that time and her marriage lasted for a mere 15 years.

I always loved all the articles she writes.And she doesn't write crap,as proven by that article.I was disappointed to come to the realization that all she wrote was true and was happening nowadays. I was very disturbed by that fact as I always considered that most marriages last until the pair dies.As I let my thoughts fly again while relaxing in the park,I realized that humans are getting themselves in a messy situation because they always take and forget to give.

Let's start off with the environment.Since the beginning of humankind,we have been scraping the resources of the face of the earth for our daily uses and development.But,have we thought about giving something back to nature even once?The question of giving back took a long time to arise-we practically thought about nature only when the petroleum started running out.

I'm not pointing fingers because I myself have failed to give back something to mother nature. I was really mad at myself when I forgot about Earth Hour.My family was watching some dance show that time.I'm sure that more than 90% of the population would not have participated in that effort to save nature but that doesn't mean it's OK to ignore it.Maybe,if we had started replanting trees when we first started chopping them down,we wouldn't be facing the searing heat everyday.

Next,I turn to our families.We always demand so many things from our parents,especially money.Our parents buy us the gadgets for style and usage but we don't seem to give them back the love they need.I've seen some of my friends who practically speak rudely to their parents.Some of them even betray their parents-they get involved in negative activities without their parents' knowledge.When their parents find out,they argue with their parents.Situations like these bring about a lot of family problems.If only we had learned to repay part of our parents love for us......

When it comes to relationships,there's actually a lot to talk about.As I mentioned earlier,my favourite writer wrote about broken marriages.Well,when we live together as a unit,there are sure to be different people with different attitudes.Some are jovial,some are cranky and some are even very hot-tempered.But on most occasions,we only see the negative side of other people and don't really make an effort to realize the positives in others.

For example,I have a hot tempered and cranky sister.I used to hate those attitudes of her when I was young.Now that I'm matured enough,I've realized that there are a lot more good values in her other than her temper.I realized that she is quite responsible in studying and also cares a lot for my brother(she always loses her temper when she guides him in his homework).And I've also learned to ignore her temper.Now,we are much closer than we were when we were young.

So,let's say you're married or in a relationship with someone,try to look for the positives in that person.If that person seems like a cranky person,maybe you can try to be patient with her/him.If you're the cranky person,Perhaps it's time you think about your partner who has been longing for unconditional love from you.

If we learn to give and take with our surroundings and the people who live around us,we wouldn't be facing much problems in our lives.Try to give up the reluctant attitude in yourself and give others a chance to play their own part in this life.Maybe,it's time we throw away self-importance and practice thinking for others in our life.........